Yea. We meet again! Alhamdulillah. In this entry, I want to share with you guys on the conflicts which I faced before with my housemates and how we solve our conflicts. Maybe you guys can use it as a guidelines. Hope so. :)
As life goes on, the potential for conflicts happen increase maybe day by day. Haha yea sure why not? Right?
So here it goes, I still remembered when the conflict happened. That time was in my final year (diploma). All my housemate were in same courses and we lived in same college.
In our lives, some of us need pet as their friends. Same goes to me. I am cat lover. My housemates also except julia(not real name). In my college, there had a cat who love to spend his time in our house. It doesn't matter for my housemates and I except Julia. For her, its kind of big disaster. She really don't like cat.
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I don't know why. Sometimes, I felt really annoyed with her. I don't know what the reason behind it. It just a cute cat with white fur. We called it Serafina. Just nice name. Haha you know what? Its really friendly towards us. And yes. We love it! Haha
The conflict getting worst during examination. Julia said that she didn't want any cat around her when she start studying. How can we handle it? No way man!
We getting tense with her behavior. Yes. We need to do something. It is not a solution. We need to discuss and solve it! So what we do to solve it? Hhe here is the step which you should to follow. Maybe this will help you to resolve conflict.
SIX STEPS PROBLEM SOLVING.(ask yourself first!)
# what is the conflict?
# what are the facts?
# what is the overall objectives?
# what are some possible solutions?
# what is the best solution?
# did the solution work?
"A problem well stated is half solved"
- Charles F. Kettering
We have to identify what is the conflicts arise? Regarding to my problem, the conflicts is my friend Julia too afraid of cat. The facts is Julia need to discuss with us why she become like that. Yes. Of course the answer is difficult to answer. But why don't we try it? Right? The objectives is too clear. We want Julia to get used with the cat and throw away her phobia on cat. Then, we took possible solution to overcome it. We try to make Julia get used with the cat. Luckily she manage it! The cat is too friendly with her. We ask Julia to hold the cat. She can feel the feeling when touch it. She loves it but yeah she has frightened feeling but its okay if she want to try it. The solution really work! Haha I believe she can do it.
Actually conflict can be prevented such as we discuss problems before we escalate to a conflicts. This is a tip from Thomas Jefferson. He advised that before you speak when angry, count to 10 ( or to 100 when very angry). This is good advice. In islam, when we angry we should take wudu' to decrease our anger. Insyaallah it will help us. Once when we relaxed and more in control, you can respond more appropriately.
"Conflicts is the beginning of consciousness.''
- M. Esther Harding-
Thanks for reading my blog. Insyaallah it will bring beneficial for us not just in world but hereafter as well. Insyaallah.
Alhamdulillah.
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